A short while ago I had posted this in facebook – “Beauty doesn't seek attention, beauty pays attention. Beauty doesn't demand care, beauty cares. There's a difference between beautified and beautiful. What we see aplenty around us are beautified girls. Genuinely beautiful girls are scarcely available these days”.
There were many reactions and comments to this post. A majority agreed but many disagreed too. The one comment I liked the most was from my son Utkarsh – ‘but then it's nobody's fault because beauty needs a witness & seekers of true beauty are scarce too.’
Recently an article from the famous cine star Sonam Kapoor has been making many rounds in social media. In her article Sonam writes, "So, for every teen girl leaning into her bedroom mirror, wondering why she doesn’t look like a celebrity: Please know that nobody wakes up like this. Not me. Not any other actress. (Not even Beyoncé. I swear.) Here’s the real deal: Before each public appearance, I spend 90 minutes in a makeup chair. Three to six people work on my hair and makeup, while a professional touches up my nails. My eyebrows are tweezed and threaded every week. There’s concealer on parts of my body that I could never have predicted would need concealing. I’m up at 6am every day and at the gym by 7:30. I exercise for 90 minutes and, some evenings, again before bed. It’s someone’s full-time job to decide what I can and cannot eat. There are more ingredients in my face packs than in my food. There’s a team dedicated to finding me flattering outfits. After all that, if I’m still not “flawless” enough, there are generous servings of Photoshop.”
This is exactly what Utkarsh and I were pointing out, today for a girl to believe in her beauty she must be beautified to look like a celebrity even to her own eyes. Does this mean that a girl who is not beautified like a celebrity or a cine star is not beautiful? Both yes and no. In a way, all women are beautiful. Their beauty transcends their features and forms. Their beauty lies in the transcended celestial essence of the feminine. But as Utkarsh has rightly said that beauty like anything else needs a witness, a quantum measurement, to manifest itself from the transcendental to the immanent world. So, who is that witness who will create that observer effect? Are my post and Utkarsh’s comment on it, pointing to a paradox like the quantum paradox of the observer effect?
Sonam urges girls to not aspire for the unrealistic perfection and flawlessness and feel and be happy with what they are. Easier said than done. Would Sonam herself appear in public without any makeup and beautification done to her? After all who sets all these standards of female beauty? In today’s world they are none other than female celebrities like Sonam herself.
But not necessarily we all need to believe in those standards. As for the quantum observer effect, I would like to go with what the new age scientists say that the observer effect is created by the cosmic or universal consciousness. This also applies to the topic of female beauty we are talking about. To make a woman happy with what she is, we in our collective consciousness must believe in the transcendental beauty of feminine. We must observe a woman totally paying full attention to her, not only to her features and form, but to her entire existence. We must observe the beauty that radiates from her smile, from the animations of her eyes, from her gentle touches to her hair. We must observe her placid expressions when she gently pushes her hair back from her face, curving it round the contour of her ear. We must observe her arranging flowers in a vase, pausing for a moment, trying to decide if she is pleased with her arrangement, discovering that she is, and expressing that joy of fulfillment. We must observe her efforts to make her home beautiful and comfortable for those who live in there and for the guests too. We must observe her every effort, every act to make her home the most desirable place for her family.
There’s beauty everywhere in a woman, in her entire countenance and beyond. And we must observe this in entirety with all the senses engaged. Every woman wants that total attention, that total engagement, and when one pays her that kind of attention she blossoms like a jasmine, a rose, a tulip, a lily, she starts believing in the song of her beauty, the song of feminine beauty that echoes beyond her physical form and out physical senses. Beauty doesn’t lie in an object, nor in the eyes of the beholder but in the dance of the two. This is the observer effect. And we must bring this effect in the life of every woman.